Open Relationships

An open relationship denotes a relationship (usually between two people) in which participants are free to take other partners; where the couple making this agreement are married, it is an open marriage. While 'open relationship' is sometimes used as a synonym to 'polyamory' or 'polyamorous relationship', these terms are generally differentiated with the "open" in 'open relationship' usually refers to the sexual aspect of a non-closed relationship, whereas polyamory refers to the extension of a relationship by allowing bonds to form (which may be sexual or otherwise) as additional long term relationships:

1.Some relationships place strict restrictions on partners (e.g. polyfidelity); such relationships are polyamorous, but not open.
2.Some relationships permit sex outside the primary relationship, but not love (cf swinging); such relationships are open, but not polyamorous.
3.Some polyamorists do not accept the dichotomies of "in a relationship/not in a relationship" and "partners/not partners"; without these divisions, it is meaningless to class a relationship as 'open' and 'closed'.
4.Some polyamorists consider 'polyamory' to be their philosophical orientation — they believe themselves capable and desirous of multiple loves — whereas 'open relationship' is used as a logistical description: that is, it is how their polyamory is expressed or implemented. They would say of themselves, for instance, "I am polyamorous; my primary partner and I have an open relationship (with the following ground rules)...."

However, there is enough overlap between the two concepts that 'open relationship' is sometimes used as a catch-all substitute when speaking to people who may not be familiar with 'polyamory'.
(Source: Wikipedia)

Friday was the end of the week. The month is close to ending meaning that I’m on my knees praying for my pay day. I had a stiff drink at home and 8 episodes of Prison break season one to get through. I decided to stay home for the first time in a while, hoping to reflect and plan for the next month.

At about 9pm my phone rings…Caller ID indicates Kay(name witheld for privacy). Damn...I wonder what’s up. Kay asks me if I’m at home and I’m like yeah…she asks me if she could come over and I’m like Hell yeah. Hmmm…..It seems I’m gonna have a cheap night and enjoy some pleasant female company atleast for a while.

I quickly put my house in order and eagerly awaiting my guest. I need to mention at this point that Kay has a boyfriend with whom I’m aquainted with. So in my mind nothing could possibly go down. So I wait.

30 mins later my phone rings. At this point I’m at my balcony and can see kay outside in her cab. I tell she can drop off. I welcome her into my house, where she excalims how nice my house is..she’s loves my sofa…she’s loving everything about the house. She then requests for a smoke. Luckily I have a pack that was left by a friend from the previous weekends party. We engage in some decent conversation as I ply her with some vodka. I must admit at this point I’m getting rather restless. It’s getting late and she seems to be in no hurry to leave.

Her phone rings and she picks it up and I can tell that it’s her man. She says she’s over at my crib. We continue our discussion and inevitably our conversation drifts to sex and sexual expoilts. Damn we shared so much in common. I guess the Vodka had her stripped of her inhibitions. It felt like that we were taunting each other. Who would be the first to break. I held my ground. I wasn’t gonna let things get out of hand. Now the vodka (I choose to lay the blame there) had other ideas. I quickly Followed her que and had a discussion about porn. Asked her if she liked porn and her answer was affirmative. She actually liked girl on girl action. I had some of that. I quickly poped one into my dvd player and watched. I could see her tense up, She crossed her thighs and twitched. The signs were there but I stayed focused. I reached across the sofa…intimating to stroke her hair but I did not. I kept my hand on the sofa close to her neck. Close enough for her to feel the warmth. I’d tease her by almost touching her but holding back. She finally strectched back and groaned. I stroked her hair then. It was like magic. She wanted more.

The rest was magical. It finally dawned on me that even though I felt in control I had been playing her game. I probably surprised her with the length of time I took to act. Needless to say we ended up in bed at 3am.

I figured that she has an open relationship because her boyfriend called and she had to leave my house in the early morning. She called me later with a cover story…..Life is interesting.